Now, I imagine you’ve all heard of introverts and plenty of you are probably reading this right now. *INTROVERTS UNITE* Ahem…anyway. For those of you who are unsure, an introvert is someone who is generally very inward focused; honing in on feelings and emotions rather than outside stimulus. They also tend to feel incredibly drained after socialising so need time alone to recuperate or ‘recharge’. It is not the same as being shy or socially anxious. Many introverts enjoy meaningful socialising. They will likely just limit it. But again every introvert is different and will have different traits and levels of introversion. This next list is basically traits and behaviours that I myself have and have experienced. Frankly they are all very common among the introvert community but I think a more personal twist on it will help it all be more informative. Commence!
The Social Recharge
This is 100% me and I can’t deny it. Whilst I generally enjoy socialising (and even meeting new people…well, one to one, still not keen on big groups), I need to rest and recharge after; time to just do my own thing. Looking back, I’ve been like that for as long as I can remember. I’ve always set aside a day or two after socialising to relax at home and bask in the glorious solitude. I see people everyday as I live at home with my mum and stepdad. But I don’t count seeing them as actually being sociable. I don’t have to be socially ‘on’ with them. I think people have a tendency to underestimate the importance of the social recharge for introverts. It’s something that we simply have to do. Whilst extroverts gain energy from being around lots of people, introverts lose it. And that’s okay. It’s just how we are.
We enjoy solitude
Pretty self-explanatory really. For us introverts, activities and hobbies we can do alone are PERFECT. Personally, I adore reading, gaming, being amongst nature and around animals, writing, cooking, baking and photography. Also, these are the things that will help an introvert feel revitalised after a busy outing.
We think about ourselves and our own experiences..a lot. As a result, we know ourselves inside out. But at the same time, we’re always wanting to find out more and explore other avenues and topics.
Quality over quantity
I’ve often heard people assume that introverts outright don’t like people. This is simply not true. We are not antisocial or people haters. We just have a small circle of close friends. And we choose our friends much more carefully.
Learning by observing
This is a trait that I’ve had since I was at nursery. Honestly I kid you not. My mum recalls times where, upon given a new task or something I hadn’t encountered before, I’d watch others until I knew what to do. I’d observe, absorb and take in all the information and cues until I was confident I could do it myself.
Just text instead
I don’t like phone calls. Fact. If they’re totally necessary, I have to psych myself up for it. Okay so I can phone my parents without any worries. But anyone else, I’d rather just text or email.
Don’t mistake it for rudeness
And also don’t take it personally. If I don’t want to see anyone for a while, it’s because I need that time to get my battery up and running again. It’s not because I don’t like you or appreciate your company. I just don’t have the energy to socialise all the time. Give me that little break in-between and I’ll be okay in a day or two.
I could probably go into way more detail and whatnot, but frankly my hands are getting tired from all the frantic typing. But I will leave you with these relevant photos and this little nugget of wisdom:
Introverts don’t seek solitude to get away from you; they seek it to get back to themselves. – Me, just now